Being lied to by your parents in childhood predicts social challenges in adulthood

first_imgShare on Facebook Share Pinterest The researchers surveyed 379 Singaporean young adults regarding their childhood exposure to parenting by lying, their current deceptive behaviors toward their parents, and their general social and psychological functioning.The participants were asked to recall if their parents told them lies that related to eating; leaving and/or staying; children’s misbehaviour; and spending money. Some examples of such lies are “If you don’t come with me now, I will leave you here by yourself” and “I did not bring money with me today, we can come back another day”.Participants who reported being lied to more as children were more likely to report lying to their parents in adulthood. They also said they faced greater difficulty in meeting psychological and social challenges.The researchers also found that being lied to by parents was associated with adjustment difficulties such as disruptiveness, conduct problems, experience of guilt and shame, as well as selfishness and manipulative traits.“Being lied to in childhood predicts lying to parents and social challenges in adulthood. The lies we studied were parental lies told to manipulate children’s emotions or behavior. The implication of the study is that parents should consider lying less to their children,” Setoh told PsyPost.“Parents can consider alternatives to lying. As parents, we aim to build a trusting and positive relationship with our children. We can do this by acknowledging children’s feelings, and providing them accurate information so that they can problem solve on their own. This aids the development of their reasoning skills and emotion regulation.”The findings are in line with a previous study, which also found that parenting by lying was associated with negative outcomes later in life.Some limitations of both studies, however, include the fact that the data are correlational and based on self-reports.“A major caveat of the study is that it depended on young adults reporting on their childhood memories. The causal pathways are unknown – does lying to parents cause psychosocial problems, or do psychosocial problems cause lying to parents? Another caveat is that we relied on young adults’ reporting,” Setoh explained.“Future studies can be longitudinal to follow children as they grow so that we can determine causal relationships between the variables of interest over time. Finally, the young adults were the only ones surveyed, and future studies can utilize multiple respondents, such as parents reporting on the lies they tell their children, and parents, teachers, and friends reporting on the children’s psychosocial adjustment.”The study, “Parenting by lying in childhood is associated with negative developmental outcomes in adulthood“, was authored by Peipei Setoh, Siqi Zhao, Rachel Santos, Gail D. Heyman, and Kang Lee. LinkedIncenter_img Email Childhood experiences of being lied to by parents is associated with maladjustments in adulthood, according to new research that was published in the Journal of Experimental Child Psychology.The findings suggest that parents may be unknowingly teaching their children that dishonesty is an acceptable means to an end when they tell lies such as “we do not have enough money to buy that toy.”“I’m interested in this topic because lying to children is a common parenting practice, yet we do not know if it has good or bad outcomes for children,” explained study author Peipei Setoh, an assistant professor at Nanyang Technological University and director of the Early Cognition Lab. Share on Twitterlast_img read more

Application for payment: Caledonian Modular Ltd vs Mar City Developments Ltd

first_imgThe FactsBy a letter of intent dated 19 December 2013 Caledonian Modular Ltd (“Caledonian”) engaged Mar City Developments Ltd (“Mar City”) to carry out construction works at Colindale in North London. It was common ground that letter of intent comprised a construction contract and the payment and adjudication provisions of the HGCRA applied.During early 2015 Caledonian commenced adjudication in respect of its interim application number 12 dated November 2014. On 11 March 2014 the adjudicator awarded Caledonian £642,394.23. Mar City made two payments totalling £200,000.On 30 January 2015, Caledonian issued application number 15 seeking a net payment £1,518,260.12. Mar City issued a payless notice on 5 February indicating a net payment of £6,317.07.On 13 February 2015 under cover of three e-mails Caledonian issued some documents to Mar City, including a further copy of application number 15 prefixed with the words “Final Account” with the net payment claim increased to £1,524,903.37.Caledonian did not substantially respond to Mar City’s subsequent requests for clarification other than to describe the 13 February submission as an “update”.On 19 March 2015 Caledonian issued an application for payment and Mar City responded with a payless notice dated 25 March.Caledonian subsequently claimed that its 13 February submission had been application for payment number 16 and that in the absence of a payless notice they were entitled to the sum claimed. In a second adjudication, the adjudicator agreed with Caledonian.In the following enforcement proceedings Mar City contended that the 13 February submission was not an application.The IssuesThe two main issues were as follows:Did Caledonian’s 13 February submission amount to an application for interim payment?In an enforcement application could the court decide an issue that was before the adjudicator, for example, the status of the 13 February submission, or was the court restricted to either enforcing or not enforcing the second adjudication decision?The DecisionOn the first issue, the judge had little hesitation in finding that Caledonian’s 13 February submission was not an application for payment or a valid payee’s notice where:None of the emails or the documents sent on 13 February stated that this was an application for interim paymentCaledonian’s subsequent application on 19 March 2015 did not state that it was a default notice or indicate that a payee’s notice had been sent on 13 February 2015Between 13 February 2015 and 19 March 2015 Mar City repeatedly asked Caledonian what the 13 February documents were. In response Caledonian did not state that the documents of 13 February were an application for payment.Having noted the draconian consequences of the employer’s failure to serve a payless notice in time, the judge stated that the employer must be put on notice by the contractor that time has begun to run hence interim payment claims must be set out with proper clarity.The judge was unimpressed with the suggestion that a contractor can “update” an application by a few thousand pounds when the overwhelming bulk of that application had already been the subject of a valid payless notice. He said this would defy common sense and be contrary to the purpose of the notice provisions in the Housing Grants, Construction and Regeneration Act 1996.The judge observed that this could lead to contractors regularly applying every few days with “updated” applications in the hope of gaining windfall through the employer slipping up by failing to serve a payless notice.On the second issue, the judge stated that at the enforcement stage the court could deal directly with an issue decided by the adjudicator, if as here, the issue was short, self-contained, and required no oral evidence or any other elaboration beyond what was capable of being provided during a short interlocutory hearing. Therefore the second issue could be decided by way of a declaration by the court.CommentaryFollowing the judgments in ISG vs Seevic College (2014) and Galliford Try Building vs Estura Ltd (2015), this case again emphasises how crucial it is that the employer issues valid payment notices and payless notices within the time limits imposed.Equally, however, if documents are an application for payment then this must clearly be stated and contractors must respond to reasonable questions form the employer concerning the status of submitted documents.The judge’s approach to the second issue will no doubt have resulted in considerable costs savings. However, as the judge observed, given the requirement that the issue be closely confined only in rare cases will the court be able to determine a substantive point in issue in the adjudication at the enforcement hearing.Philip Barnes Fenwick ElliottFree audio webinar: Essential construction law updateDate and time: Thursday 29 October 2015 | 11.00 – 12.00 GMTBuilding, in association with Fenwick Elliott, would like to invite you to this free to attend live audio webinar on recent legal changes and developments affecting the construction sector.Our expert panel of speakers will discuss what you need to know about the judicial process and procedures including:BIM, where are we now?Managing the construction supply chain payment charter: a legal viewBIM: Where are we now? Where are we going?To book your place, click here.last_img read more

Hogs become bowl eligible with 30-0 win over Ole Miss

first_imgFAYETTEVILLE, Ark. (KTHV) – For the second straight week, it was Hog Heaven in Fayetteville.Arkansas (6-5, 2-5 SEC) reached bowl eligibility for the first time since 2011 with a 30-0 win over #8 Ole Miss (8-3, 4-3 SEC). The punishing Hog defense forced six turnovers, including two interceptions in the end zone. After last week’s 17-0 win over LSU, it’s the first time in school history that Arkansas has shut out back-to-back SEC opponents and the first time in college football history that an unranked team has shut out back-to-back ranked teams.What is perhaps more impressive is that Arkansas played most of the game without starting quarterback Brandon Allen, who completed 5 of 10 passes for 87 yards and a touchdown before taking a knee in the back in the second quarter and leaving for the game. Backup Austin Allen completed 3 of 5 passes for 63 yards in relief.Arkansas faces Missouri next week in Columbia, Mo., right here on THV 11.last_img read more

N’Golo Kante renews Chelsea deal until 2023

first_img “It has been two beautiful years and I wish for more to come,” said the World Cup winning France battler. Upd. on 26/11/2018 at 09:19 CET The 27-year-old will stay at Stamford Bridge until 2023 on a reported 17.2 million euros a year deal. “We now look forward to five more years with N’Golo at the heart of the Chelsea midfield.” IN SPORT.ES Chelsea director Marina Granovskaia added: “When he arrived, we knew we had signed a special player – but he has astounded everybody with his tireless and unselfish displays. “Since I came, I have completely improved as a player, challenged myself and got some awards I never thought about. 23/11/2018 Kanté renueva con el Chelsea hasta 2023 Chelsea midfielder N’Golo Kante has penned a new five-year contract with the London club. “Off the pitch, he remains a dedicated professional and a humble human being despite the fact he is a world champion and a two-time Premier League winner. “I like the city, I like the club and I am happy to be here for more time.” | Sportlast_img read more

Real Sociedad fall to Getafe as they’re beaten 1-2 at Reale Seguros Stadium

first_img The game started favourably for Real Sociedad, with a good early goal from Mikel Merino in the 5th minute, thereby seeing the first half to a 1-0. Upd. at 20:50 CEST 06/10/2019 Real defeated at home by Getafe at Reale Seguros Stadium on Sunday. The two teams arrived at this challenge after suffering a defeat in their previous league game. Real Sociedad faced the match with a desire to make up their league after losing against Sevilla 3-2 while Getafe lost by a result of 0-2 in the previous match against Barcelona. As of today, Real Sociedad is 5th in the LaLiga table with 13 points from 8 matches, while Getafe sits 12th with 10 points after 8 matches.center_img Getafe and Real Sociedad will play at home stadium against Leganés and Real Betis respectively. At the end of the match, both teams made 3 substitutions each. For Real Sociedad Igor Zubeldia, Alexander Isak and Ander Barrenetxea came on for Willian Jose, Ander Guevara and Portu, while Getafe brought on Kennedy, Ángel Rodríguez and David Timor to replace Allan Nyom, Jorge Molina and David. The referee booked Diego Llorente from Real and Diego Llorente (2 yellow cards) saw the red card, while for Getafe Jaime Mata, Damián Suárez, Faycal Fajr and Leandro Cabrera saw a yellow card as well. Getafe took the lead in the second half, thanks to a goal from Jaime Mata 69 minutes in the game. Later, Getafe scored again and turned the match 1-2 thanks to a goal from Nemanja Maksimovic in the 89th minute just before the end of the second half, finalising the game with a 1-2.last_img read more

SOA: Adoption Drops in 2008

first_imgSOA adoption peaked in 2007. Since the beginning of 2008, there has been a significant decline in the number of new adopters. The reasons: companies either viewed the leap as one they we’re prepared for in terms of IT skills, there really was no solid business case for them to do it, or there wasn’t even enough understanding of SOA to even come up with a business case. That’s the result of a recent survey by Gartner on global SOA adoption and reported in InfoWorld.Another big reason could be the drop is the economy. Budgets are down and companies are in more of a defensive posture, maintaining their current operations, rather than breaking ground with new initiatives.Where SOA is being adopted, most adopters are applying it to new installations, even though a lot of the hype around SOA revolves around its usefulness in breaking open accessibility to legacy systems. This indicates that many of the adopters are still in experimentation mode and not fully confident in applying the new technology to their existing systems.The Gartner report notes that many people are still cautious, and in the current business climate, Gartner recommends the cautious approach as a good one. Their advice is to hunker down for the next year and start mapping a strategy to follow up on then.last_img read more

James Washington Could End This Year as the 4th All-Time OSU Receiver

first_imgWhile you’re here, we’d like you to consider subscribing to Pistols Firing and becoming a PFB+ member. It’s a big ask from us to you, but it also comes with a load of benefits like ad-free browsing (ads stink!), access to our premium room in The Chamber and monthly giveaways.The other thing it does is help stabilize our business into the future. As it turns out, sending folks on the road to cover games and provide 24/7 Pokes coverage like the excellent article you just read costs money. Because of our subscribers, we’ve been able to improve our work and provide the best OSU news and community anywhere online. Help us keep that up. After a career-low one reception for nine yards last week in Lawrence, it may seem like a questionable notion. But James Washington has a pretty good shot at ending his junior season fourth in all-time receiving yards at Oklahoma State.Here’s a look at the current leaderboardRashaun Woods – 4,414 yardsJustin Blackmon – 3,564 yardsHart Lee Dykes – 3,275 yardsD’Juan Woods – 2,751 yardsDez Bryant – 2,425 yardsJames Washington – 2,283 yardsWashington is just 142 yards behind Dez Bryant and 468 behind D’Juan Woods. Of course Dez only played three games as a junior. To pass Woods and crack the top four, Washington would need to average just over 78 yards per game the rest of the way, assuming the Cowboys play a bowl game.That’s not hard to imagine since he was averaging 121.8 yards per game coming into the Kansas. Another thing working in his favor is Washington’s average of 19.3 yards per reception which is over two yards better than any of the receivers above him on the list.Let’s hope last week was an aberration and the coaching staff can find a way to get their best player some more touches against West Virginia on Saturday.Mason Rudolph said that would be the case this week.“[Bracket coverage has] been happening all year and he still gets production,” Rudolph told the Tulsa World. We’ve got to find better ways to get him the ball and we will.”last_img read more

Kansas State Does Not Turn The Ball Over Which Could Be a Problem

first_imgOklahoma State heads to its’ proverbial house of horrors on Saturday, where the Cowboys will take on Bill Snyder and the Kansas State Wildcats. The Cowboys haven’t come home with a win at Bill Snyder Family Stadium since 2010, including a brutal 48-14 pounding in 2014 the last time the Pokes came to town.This year’s Kansas State team is very similar to your typical Bill Snyder-coached group- they run the ball, they stop the run, and they refuse to turn the ball over. The Wildcats sit at 5-3 (3-2 in Big 12 play) and come off of a close shave against Iowa State in Farmageddon.They held a 31-10 lead in the fourth quarter only to give up 16 unanswered and needed to recover an onside kick at the end to hang on for the win.But the style that Kansas State plays may spell doom for a Cowboys defense that relies heavily on turnovers and struggles to get stops without them. Let’s take a look at a few numbers to know for Kansas State.Kansas State will not give the ball upAs mentioned above, Kansas State has turned over the ball just seven times all season! This ranks eighth in the country, and will mean many long, slow drives up and down the field. QB Jesse Ertz facilitates an interesting spread offense, but executes more like a Big 10 offense than a Big 12.Running backs Justin Silmon and Charles Thomas are a two headed monster out of the backfield that run hard and run often. The Cowboys defense should expect to be on the field more than almost any other game this season, and will need to stop the run against the Wildcats if they want to get off the field.Oklahoma State will face the best run defense they’ve faced all yearK-State is elite at stopping the run. They give up just 102.3 yards per game, which is fifth in the entire country. OSU has improved quite a bit in the past few games running the football, but will face the toughest test of their season on the ground in Manhattan.If the Pokes can’t run the ball and establish the ground game early, they will be in big trouble on the road.The Cowboys continue to be road warriors in the Big 12A stat that may surprise Cowboys fans — Oklahoma State is 7-1 in their last 8 true road games, dating back to 2014. Despite Mason Rudolph’s struggles on the road (10 touchdowns, 10 interceptions in his career), OSU has come up big this year and last year away from Stillwater, especially in the Big 12.Kansas State has won the last two meetings in Manhattan, but this Oklahoma State team is riding high after the West Virginia win last week. If the Cowboys can get a win on the road this weekend, they will be in the driver’s seat to play for the Big 12 title in Norman the final day of the season. While you’re here, we’d like you to consider subscribing to Pistols Firing and becoming a PFB+ member. It’s a big ask from us to you, but it also comes with a load of benefits like ad-free browsing (ads stink!), access to our premium room in The Chamber and monthly giveaways.The other thing it does is help stabilize our business into the future. As it turns out, sending folks on the road to cover games and provide 24/7 Pokes coverage like the excellent article you just read costs money. Because of our subscribers, we’ve been able to improve our work and provide the best OSU news and community anywhere online. Help us keep that up.last_img read more

Videos: Gundy, Dunn and Rudolph Talk Ateman’s Return, Receivers

first_imgOne of the Cowboys’ biggest offensive additions (that no one is talking about) is the dynamic outside threat of Marcell Ateman, who sat 2016 out with injury. We caught up with Mike Gundy, receivers coach Kasey Dunn and Mason Rudolph to discuss Ateman’s return and the rest of OSU’s ridiculously deep wide receiver talent pool. While you’re here, we’d like you to consider subscribing to Pistols Firing and becoming a PFB+ member. It’s a big ask from us to you, but it also comes with a load of benefits like ad-free browsing (ads stink!), access to our premium room in The Chamber and monthly giveaways.The other thing it does is help stabilize our business into the future. As it turns out, sending folks on the road to cover games and provide 24/7 Pokes coverage like the excellent article you just read costs money. Because of our subscribers, we’ve been able to improve our work and provide the best OSU news and community anywhere online. Help us keep that up.last_img read more